"You will come into contact with two types of people … You will have clients who will own their shit. They will take responsibility for all of their actions … And then you will have clients that … don't own their shit and they blame everyone and their mother for their own misfortunes."

In this episode of the Fierce as F*ck podcast, I want to discuss detaching ourselves from our clients’ outcomes in their business and life.  This is an important topic to discuss, because so many of us want to help people when we become coaches, but there are going to be people that aren’t ready for that help.

This is where the idea of having two types of clients comes into play.  You will have clients that are at cause and you will have clients that are at effect.  The clients that are at cause are great! They take responsibility for their actions, they show up for their coaching sessions and their business, and they admit when and where they may have fallen short and take responsibility for it.

Those that are at effect tend to want to blame everybody else for their hardships and their misfortunes.  They just aren’t ready to see the big picture and admit that they need to take the action steps to move themselves and their business forward.

Now sometimes, as coaches we can help our clients move from effect to cause.  We can give them a quick reality check and let them know we are here to support them in their business, but we aren’t here to listen to their excuses weekly, so we need to know how to support them to help them show up.  But even this doesn’t always help people take a look at themselves.

This is where it is important for you to detach from your client, because they may try to blame you, and you cannot let one person’s opinion make you feel less than in your abilities to show up as an amazing coach.

 “You cannot get emotionally attached to your clients, which is really hard because you want to help them. You want to be there for them, you want to be their best friend, but you aren't their best friend.”